One change that that you are seeking is to know where people come from who were brought up in the church. You wish to be less judgmental and be more receptive to new ideas. You want to be able to walk beside those how will take the time to listen and invest in there time in the life of a broken person. You are looking to be a more patient person to help and assist others with their pain and journey through life's trials and tribulations. This will all be done through God who will heal us and make us new, for we are are broken in one way or another.