Beth,
Any style of leadership that involves humor, self-awareness, humility, and candor is going to go far. Great post.
I was thinking about the boundary training -- and the only thing I might want to add to that is that my perspective is not so much that our emotional needs aren't involved in the lives of the congregation -- that would be inhuman and impossible. I think that the goal is self-awareness, which comes through conversations. You are correct that we aren't aiming for aloof -- neither do we want emeshed.
You have a great pastor. Glad you are there!