Although I would need more information to base any of these assumptions, I’m perceiving a lack of honesty about the church’s development (indicated by the drastic difference in reported and observed attendance numbers) which I take to be rooted in fear. This fear seems to be rooted in three key (and somewhat contrasting) places. A fear of change (as demonstrated by Mary), a fear of destitution (Ralph), and a fear of stagnation (Jose & Marjorie).
As far as the individual concerns go, I would treat Mary and Ralph fairly similarly. I would express appreciation for their parts in worship leadership and accounting do my best to establish open lines of communication between us. If there is are applicable boards I would encourage them to join them, and if not I would goal to establish these committees. It seems that the van is something that would be best addressed within a group.
This seems like a church that is failing to accommodate any new ideas in order to embrace the community around them. Jose and Marjorie both seem to have hope and ambition for the congregation, but both also display some fear and even aggravation. Here, I would advocate for hope and realism. In both cases, I would encourage their long term goals by encouraging them to come up with manageable short term goals that point in the same direction. I would work with Marjorie to plan activities for the children of the community and speak with Jose about common goals and how we can achieve them without alienating our current members. I would work with Jose and any committees to establish structure in the office and open, effective lines of communication.
I would like to spend at least a portion of the leadership meeting getting more information on these topics and finding out how the individuals there perceive them affecting the congregation. However, I also think it’s important to spend time on what members see as the strengths of the church and avoid focusing solely on the perceived problems.