This reminds me of the 'back of the boat' chapter (chapter 3) in Rest in the Storm. There are so many ways we get blocked from destressing, that we don't get the chance to settle into a space where we can be grateful. While that chapter is a lot about the ways we block ourselves from taking care of ourselves, it seems that it also applies to the places where we just don't have the habits of looking around to see ourselves and our environment, and so don't get the moment's rest needed in order to heave a sigh, take a moment, and find the gratitude.